Snarky vent

Don't mind me, I'm rather :censored: lately.

I hate the "It'll be here before you know it" or "time will fly" stuff people say. I realize they're well intentioned, trying to be positive and supportive. I get that, I appreciate that, but really?

No, time won't fly, any more than the past few months have crawled by. No, it won't be here before I know it, I'm counting every single day until it gets here and trying desperately not to think of the 7 months still yet to go after R&R. I'm so glad our deployment is flying for you but it's not exactly flying for either of us. Don't try to tell me that the next two months will fly because it's the holidays. The holidays flat out suck when you spend them apart and if I had my way, I'd sleep through them. They're not going to fly by, however much I wish they would.

I appreciate the effort. I appreciate the support. But, I beg of you, next time, please just give me a hug. Or even a cyber hug. Or some liquor. Or even better, chocolate. Chocolate is always good.

P.S.
No, I'm not decorating for Christmas. Yes, I love Christmas but I have no desire this year. Please don't try to make me feel guilty about that.

This entry was posted on November 24th, 2009 at 12:00:25 pm by Stephanie and is filed under Deployment.

10 comments

Comment from: Tracy [Visitor]

The best thing I can say to you is hang in there. I feel your pain. My husband has been away from home since March, though he didn't leave the country until October. We're looking at several more months, with no R&R allowed. Sigh.

This post reminds me very much of one I wrote during my husband's last deployment:

http://blog.tracamos.com/2007/09/im-supposed-to-miss-my-husband.html

11/24/09 @ 12:23

Comment from: Stephanie [Member]

Thanks Tracy. :sneakyhug Your post was perfect.

11/24/09 @ 12:28

Comment from: Tootie [Visitor]

· http://tootiewritings.blogspot.com

I'm sending a cyber hug your way. And I hope you find some good chocolate!! It's the least you deserve!

11/24/09 @ 13:39

Comment from: Sara [Visitor]

· http://saravido.blogspot.com

Someone told me that pregnancy was like deployment. A bunch of well intentioned people saying to absolutel worst things possible and irritating you to tears in the process.

Except I got called a miserable super bitch for saying basically the same thing you just did.

I can say with all honesty I know exactly how you feel, and I don't fault you for ANYTING you feel or say. Deployments are hard and bring up human emotions we were never meant to deal with. And things we never had felt before.

Have some liquor and chocolate for me would you?

11/24/09 @ 14:40

Comment from: Kay [Visitor]

No reason to fault you nor try to make you feel guilty - just know that I support you & still love you no matter what!

:hug

in a desparate attempt to at least put a small smirk on your face: http://gaki.files.wordpress.com/2006/08/hersheys-deep-dark-choco-cake.jpg

11/24/09 @ 16:21

Comment from: Slightly Salty [Visitor]

· http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com

First - cyber hug, cyber chocolate and cyber alcohol headed your way.
Second, time always flies for people that aren't going through your deployment. It's so much easier for them say it will pass quickly b/c they don't live the day to day hell that we do.

Hang in there as best as you can - that's all I can say.

11/26/09 @ 22:00

Comment from: liberal army wife [Visitor]

· http://plarmywife.blogspot.com/

so, you getting that too? I'm SICK to death of it... here's my take on it

http://plarmywife.blogspot.com/2009/11/counting-my-way.html

LAW

11/27/09 @ 09:01

Comment from: Danielle [Visitor]

I hate when people make comments like, the time will fly by. One of my friends actually told me I shouldn't be worried or upset because statistically we are more likely to be killed in a car accident than they are in combat. She said, she should worry about her husband commuting more than I should worry about my boyfriend in Afghanistan. My reply was, You can call and check on him. I get one phone call a week if I am lucky, usually under five minutes, that also gets cut off before we say goodbye often. The insensitivity of people kills me sometimes.

11/28/09 @ 03:49

Comment from: Kristie [Visitor]

· http://ourguidedsteps.blogspot.com/

Totally with you...

although my husband and I are together... we are in Souda Bay Greece and it just does not seem like Christmas without American capitalism and lots of shopping with the family!

Blessings,
Kristie

12/09/09 @ 05:32

Comment from: Heather [Visitor]

I agree with your post completely. I have several friends that have deployed and one recently KIA, but it's totally different when the person who is the keeper of your heart deploys. My fiance left the week before Christmas and it seems like these last few weeks have crawled. If I had a choice I would have slspt through the holidays as well. I know he wants me to keep busy and involved with my activities while he's away, as I'm sure yours does, but it's hard just the same. (((( Big Hugs)))) and I hope you got your hands on some impressive alcohol and quality chocolate!!:hug

01/09/10 @ 06:46

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