"They also serve who only stand and wait." - John Milton

Crapola.

I hate it when I vent in an email, hit send, and then just want to take it back. :doh:

I know not to get worked up or emotional based on how often someone else is hearing from their husband, I really do. Four deployments in, I know better! I've kept my mouth shut about not getting a single phone call for a month now for well over a week and when he told me he got mail today it just came out ... how much it sucked watching all these other wives get multiple phone calls when all I've gotten are emails a few sentences long and usually consisting of "I'm busy, I love you" type stuff.

I know he's not ignoring me and he's busy and exhausted, I just miss us, you know? It's hard to do 'us' with emails so short and far between. I'd much prefer a hand written letter once a week even, these few sentence emails just seem like a tease most of the time. I just hope he hears that I just miss him within the venting. :(

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Comment from: loquita [Visitor] · http://gringaloquita.blogspot.com
It probably doesn't help for me to tell you this... but the "float" deployment was the absolute worst communication situation for us. HORRIBLE.

There were always lines for the computer labs, so my husband would grab a few minutes when no one else was there to type me quick emails. And he did the same thing with the phones -- either never had the time to stand in line, or he felt his Marines needed the phone time more than he did.

Of course I often told him that **I** needed the damn phone time!!

So, basically, I sympathize and empathize -- and encourage you to just have the feelings that you have. They are justified, and I think it will hurt your communication more if you hold them back, even if you feel guilty for feeling that way. Honesty is always the best policy -- at least that's my approach for deployment comm. I know there are others who like to keep things strictly happy / upbeat.

Sending you big hugs from the south. :)
04/25/11 @ 22:31
Comment from: Stephanie [Member] Email
Thanks Loquita, I really appreciate the insight. You nailed what is probably going on, on both sides of it.

No matter how guilty I feel, it was effective at least. Just got my first phone call. :)
04/26/11 @ 17:19

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